I created Code Forty4 to support spouses and families of law enforcement officers because too often, we are trying to navigate this life alone. That is where our story began. Today, our mission includes first responder spouses and families across law enforcement, fire, EMS, corrections, and dispatch.
Spouses are usually the first to see the shifts.
The irritability.
The withdrawal.
The exhaustion that doesn’t make sense.
Yet most of us were never taught what those changes mean or how to respond in a way that actually helps.
About Code Forty 4
Through Code Forty4, my mission is simple:
Help spouses recognize the signs, respond with understanding, and support their loved ones before the line breaks.
I’m not a clinician. I’m not an academic expert.
I’m a spouse who has lived this life, walked through dark seasons, and spent years learning from clinicians, first responder wellness leaders, and families across the country.
I understand the real-life balancing act of raising a family, managing careers, navigating shift work; and trying to keep a home steady while the person you love faces trauma most people will never see.
Today, Code Forty4 brings this mission to life in two connected ways: the podcast, speaking, and educational resources help families understand the mental and emotional impact of first responder work; the Code Forty4 Foundation carries that mission into community support through education, partnerships, and family-focused initiatives. Visit The Foundation to learn more, meet our board, or support the mission.
Because supporting first responders includes supporting their families.
And when we start talking openly about the realities of this life, we begin to break the silence that has hurt too many families for too long.